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Get Your Ears Used to the Water First!

  • Jul 20, 2019
  • 3 min read

Updated: Jul 31, 2019



EARS

Getting ears comfortable in the water is surprisingly impactful! We usually target getting the eyes wet and blowing bubbles first, but often ears are the real culprits when children are uncomfortable getting their faces in the water. If your child wears goggles, and knows how to hold her breath and blow bubbles, desensitizing the ears should be your next goal.

As a pediatric occupational therapist and a swimming instructor, I personally find that addressing ears FIRST gets the quickest results. Targeting the ears is often less threatening than trying to get your child to put his/her whole face in the water at once. This is true for typically developing children as well as those with Sensory Processing Disorder or sensory challenges.

Now for some tips!


1.  Teach “listen to the fish.” "Talk to the fish (blow bubbles), listen to the fish" (ear in the water) is a game I often use to teach rotary breathing for the front crawl stroke. For the purpose of desensitizing the ears, we will just pretend we are listening to the fish who , obviously, are talking underwater. Face each other while playing this game. Your happy, smiling face is calming and shows the child that this is fun. Start a conversation and keep an ongoing dialogue about what the “fishies” are saying. This will keep the game going and distract the child from feeling uncomfortable. The longer you play the more desensitizing. Here’s an excerpt from a recent mom/child team that I coached:


Mom: “I’m gonna ask the fishy what his name is.”///“Fishy, what’s your name?”///“I can’t hear him, Johnny, what did he say?”///Sara: Listens.///“Fred! He said his name is Fred.”///Mom: “Fred, how old are you? Wait…What! It’s your birthday?”

Usually children get pretty creative with this game. Stick with it as long as possible. If you are also working on breath control, you can “talk to the fish” by blowing bubbles.


2. Simon Says. Start with movements your child is most comfortable doing. For example, “Simon says tap your head, splash the water, etc.” Spend lots of time on activities your child can do easily. Work your way to “Simon says put your ear in the water.”


Hokey Pokey

Once your child gets used to placing her ears in the water, add movement! This will further desensitize her, and get her used to the feeling of water moving along her ears, the way it does when you are swimming a stroke. For example, “Simon says put your elbow in the water and wiggle it.” And eventually “put your ear in the water and wiggle it.” Do not underestimate the power of being silly and ridiculous!


Slide Guide

3. The Hokey Pokey. This is the same concept as Simon Says. Start with “put your hand in, take your hand out, other hand in, foot in, other foot in, belly in…”etc. Work you way to “put your ear in and shake it all about.” Children are often more accepting of shaking ears in the water for this game. It is the Hokey Pokey after all, and you need to “shake it all about.” That’s just how you play the game.


4. Side Glide. Now it's time to glide with the ears in the water. Support your child in a side lying position and walk her across the shallow end of the pool. Use whatever imagery or pretend play works for your child. You can “listen to the fish all the way across” or pretend you are taking a nap. Make sure to do this on both sides. You can tell your child you don’t “want them to be lopsided,” or “the other side wants a turn”.

Backfloat Lullaby

5. Back float lullaby. If your child is relaxed enough, try pulling him/her across the pool in a supported black float position. This gets both ears in the water together with movement. Have your child lay her head on the “pillow” (your shoulder) with arms extended like an airplane. Place your hands under the hips to support. Have your child choose and sing a bedtime lullaby. This will both distract and relax her. Move slowly.


9 Comments


sebastian.perez
5 days ago

The ear-first tip makes a ton of sense for sensory kiddos—once they decide something feels “weird,” it’s like everything else is a no. Have you found any difference between pool vs bath for practicing (temperature or echo-y sound)? This is random, but the “start with the least threatening piece and build tolerance” idea reminds me of how I eased into picking a soft summer color palette for my wardrobe on https://stylelooklab.com — one small change at a time instead of a full overhaul. Curious if you’d structure ear work the same way (tiny reps over weeks vs one longer session). beginner soft summer color palette

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sebastian.perez
5 days ago

It’s interesting that you’re tackling ears before the full face—my niece will blow bubbles forever but still hates that “water in the ear” feeling. The pretend conversation piece seems like it would keep her from fixating on the sensation, which is usually the spiral. Side note: the “make it a game” approach feels similar to how I’ve seen playful ghibli ai edits used to get kids to cooperate for photos at https://imgg.ai/styles/ghibli — different context, same distraction trick. I’m going to try the fish dialogue next pool day. ghibli ai style portraits

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sebastian.perez
5 days ago

The “listen to the fish” idea is exactly what finally helped my kid stop panicking about water near his ears—eyes were fine, it was the ear feeling that set him off. I started counting seconds like a tiny game and it got way less scary fast. Also, I weirdly track our lesson time like I’m budgeting it; CaesarCipher at CaesarCipher reminds me of that “how long will this actually take” math. Anyway, the ear-first framing here feels spot on.

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Jun 15

as a swim instructor, i've seen how ear sensitivity can hold kids back. this step-by-step approach with games like 'listen to the fish' is practical and reduces pressure. focusing on ears before the full face makes sense, especially for children with sensory sensitivities. the side glide and back float lullaby are clever progressions. AI Image Editor

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Great advice! Focusing on desensitizing the ears can really make a difference for kids learning to be comfortable in the water. For more insights on movement and development, check out cobb can move.

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